Feathered Quill Book Reviews:
Perhaps when we begin to recognize and pinpoint the exact issues we are struggling with,
it’s then we can begin to move forward. Geva Salerno was struggling with addiction, one
whose tentacles began to eat into everything around her, including her relationship with her
family. Everywhere she looked her addiction was staring her in the face, beckoning her to
feast at the table. Geva need only spot a handsome man and her mind would begin to churn,
thinking of a future with him, a possible marriage. Rationally her behavior was ridiculous,
unconscionable, yet the addictive thoughts continued. Geva made up her mind to put a halt
to this ever-churning nonsense, but asked herself “Would I really be able to break this
Perhaps she could defeat her self-defeating addiction to dating and there was only one way
to do it. Geva had to table dating and one solid year just might do it. She’d already married
Carlos on a whim without really getting to know him and a quick divorce told her
something. There would be no “Carlos situation” ever again if she could help it. “I have to
get hold of my life,” Geva said to herself, but what to do? She began to explore the
possibilities around her. It was imperative that she dump the neediness, her addictive need
for men, and replace them with things that would add meaning to her life. “Mom, I’ve
decided to take this year off from dating,” but Geva soon began to wonder if she could
keep that promise to herself, let alone anyone else.
Geva began trying to reclaim herself by taking up guitar, trying to revitalize her interest in
painting, becoming more active in drum circles, and taking spiritual vacations. Her roving
eye quickly threatened to defeat her project as she spotted men who could easily be dating
prospects. She couldn’t even seem to manage making it through that spiritual vacation
without spotting a “possibility.” Geva later pondered the situation thinking, “What do they
have that we need so badly that it throws off our center of gravity?” Her experiment
seemed hopelessly doomed from the start with that seemingly endless addiction to dating.
The months began to slowly creep by, months that sometimes felt as if she were climbing
up the sheer face of a mountain. Would Geva plummet into a crevice of no return or would
she discover herself in the process?
We’ve all had periods in our lives when we’ve had to step back and examine our behaviors
and addictions, things that impact everything around us. It wasn’t particularly far into this
book that I began to notice something. That something was that this book was written from
the heart. Geva mentioned the fact that she’d explored the possibility of hiring a
ghostwriter, but that would, in my estimation, have destroyed the journey. The book lacked
the polish it might have had, but instead became quite poignant. It was as if Geva, through
her journal entries and conversational style of writing, asked me to examine my own life.
The more I read, the more I could relate. The beauty of this work was not to be found in the
polish, but rather the shine.
The issue of one’s “center of gravity” and what that meant didn’t come up until the latter
part of the book. This isn’t a book that I wanted to race through in a day or two, but rather
one I chose to read slowly and think about. Geva mentioned that she’d get “these mad
crushes, which last for a day or so and then disappear.” Trying to rid herself of this
addiction was obviously not going to be easy. At times the reading seemed slow, but forced
me to reflect upon what was going on in her life and how one journeys through the
addictive process. There was and is a lot of pain trying to elude the grasp of addiction, but
the honesty of Geva’s journey made the book all the more meaningful.
Quill says: If you too are struggling with addiction of any sort or want to change
your life, perhaps taking a walk with Geva will help you move on.